That’s the zen way, right? Focus on your present, rather than your past or future. My present is tolerable, but not great. It’s my future I get excited about.
As an army brat, I grew up feeling the need to reinvent myself to suit whatever circumstances presented themselves as we moved from place to place: Georgia, Virginia, Pennsylvania, Belgium, California, Italy. Throwing out whatever had seemed to work in the previous location when it no longer worked in the new (or when I assumed it would no longer work in the new). Trying to make other people happy all the time. These patterns continue into adulthood: grad school in Maryland and then tenure-track job in the American midwest. What do people want? How can I focus on giving them what they want?
John Locke be damned, it’s time to think differently about my life.