It’s both/and! I don’t know what your high school experience was like, dear reader, but mine felt a lot like this. Of course, I went to three different high schools in three different countries, but everywhere I landed I had the grades, Atari, and D&D paraphernalia to qualify me for one camp and the slouchy army jacket, bad attitude, and record collection to qualify me for the other. Somehow I still managed to be elected prom king. (I know. I know.) I guess a bleached hair androgyne with unusual fashion sense–I was voted “most unusual dresser.” Seriously.–was more appealing to my classmates than the two jocks who were also nominated.
And I’m still trying to learn that your experience of the world in which you live and the nature of that world can be two very different things.